Tuesday, March 2, 2010

At least you have......

Sometimes I feel like people are under the assumption that I am not grateful or happy for what I do have. This really bothers me. I thank God on a daily basis for helping me make it through my divorce with my first husband and not having to struggle to make ends meet. I am thankful for the fact that I work where I do with the coworkers I have because I don't think I would have made it through everything I am going through without the support I have received there. I am thankful for my beautiful boy I have and that he is healthy and loving and spunky. I am thankful for my husband who I know loves me so much and would do anything to make me happy, and I know it is so hard for him to watch me be sad. I am thankful I have both of my parents. I am thankful that I have all of my family and that everyone is healthy and has stayed safe. I am thankful my friends. So to the people who think I am not grateful I am very much so and I do think I am lucky to have a these wonderful things in my life.

I know that I am not the only one who has something I am struggling with in my life. I know there are some people who look at what I am going through and they might have something much worse going on in their life and they look at me and think she has no idea what it is like to go through whatever horrible thing they are going through. They are probably right. I might not. There are a lot of things I hear other people talking about in there lives and I feel guilty for being so sad about what's going on in mine. But at the same time I hear people complain about stuff that is going on in their lives and think to myself they have no idea how lucky they are.

I guess my point his whenever someone is going through something difficult in there life whether you think it is something big or not, don't say to them at least you have.....
They fact is that they are probably well aware of all the blessings they have in their life, but right in that very moment they are in, they are sad about what is going on and it seems devastating to them.

At least I have all the wonderful things in my life that I have, but the fact is I want a baby and I have always wanted more than one child. The fact is that so has Kevin and at least he has Blake but maybe he would love to have his own. My situation is a heartbreaking, stressful and just a down right hard situation. No it is not life or death. I will not die if I don't have another baby and life will go on no matter how this chapter of my life ends, but the fact is the words at least you have... are not comforting to me right now. Having a baby is my desire right now.


  1. I've tried three times to post this so hopefully it won't show up over and over :) I think sometimes people don know what to say so they say the first thing they think of. Especially with infertility issues. You can't understand the pain unless you've been thru it. When we were going thru it peole said the most ridiculous things. Some of my favorites were: you can always just adopt, wish I could give you my kids, relax and it'll happen. Why can't they just say I'm thinking about you and praying for you. People dealing with fertility issues aren't looking for friends and family to solve their problems or give advice. We just need someone to listen and not judge.

  2. I agree 100%. I have my own struggle that is different from yours, but very much stirs all the same emotions and doubts and frustrations and turmoil as yours.

    I know exactly how you feel to hear "At least you have..." or my least personal favorite,"God never gives you more than you can handle". People who love you don't like to see you in pain, and they mean well when they say those things.